【英语阅读】13个建议帮你走出生活困境

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13 Things to Remember When Life Gets Rough

We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude.

我们都经历过艰难时期,我们都能挺过来。只是有些人会做得好些。那么他们的秘诀是什么呢?大部分时候取决于我们的态度。

1. What is, is.是什么就是什么

Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.

佛经里有句古话说的好:“拒绝承认会让你觉得难受。“仔细想想。那句话的意思是说如果我们不希望某些事情发生,但是当事情发生了我们就会觉得难受。要是你能做些改变,那你就应该去做,改变它。但是如果你没法改变它,那么你只有两个选择:(1)要么就是接受,任其发展。或者(2)脑子里一直都是那些事,最后难受死。

2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem.如果你认为那是个问题那就真的是个问题

Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore.

大多数时候自己才是最大的敌人。幸福与否经常是取决于我们对自身的期望。要是你老觉得那件事是个难题,那么你们思维、你的情感都会变得消极。反之,要是你能从中学到些什么,那么对你来说那些问题突然就不再是个事了。

3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself.

要想让某些事发生些变化,首先从改变你自己开始

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change.

现实世界是你内心世界的写照。你难道不知道他们的生活是一片混乱还是压力重重?生活上的这些问题难道不是因为他们心里的不平静?我们常常会认为改变环境也能改变我们自己。但那也会让我们往反方向发展——要想让我们周围的情况有所改变,首先应该改变我们自己。

4. There is no such thing as failure—only learning opportunities.

没有失败——只有抓住机会

You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over and over. In fact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn’t work.” Take your so-called “failures” and learn something from them. Learn how to do it better next time.

你应该把“失败”这个词语从你的世界中抹去。许多伟人做成某事之前都“失败”过很多次。事实上,就像索马斯·爱迪生所说“我发明了电灯,但我也找到了99种不能做成电灯的方法。”收起你所谓的“失败”,在失败中学习。学习下次要怎样才可以做得更好。

5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something better is coming.如果想要的东西没有得到,那只能说明你会有更好的

That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. But it’s true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn’t work out. Maybe the job you didn’t get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to.

我知道,有时候很难让人相信。但确实是这样。通常,当你回首往事,你就会发现为什么有些好事没发生在你身上。你没能得到的那份工作也许会让你失去很多与家人共度的时光,而你得到的那份工作的时间反而更灵活。只要相信每件事的发生发展都有其道理。

6. Appreciate the present moment.珍惜当下

This moment will never come again. And there is always something precious about every moment. So don’t let it pass you by! Soon it will just be a memory. Even moments that don’t seem happy can be looked upon as something that you might miss someday. As the country song by Trace Adkins says, “You’re gonna miss this…you’re gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast….you may not know this now, but you’re gonna miss this…”

时光不能在重来。每个时期总会有能让人怀念的事。因此,不要让它溜走,因为很快那些事就会变成一段回忆。那些让人觉得不快乐的时光,有一天你也会失去。就像乡村音乐歌手Trace Adkins唱的那样,你会失去这些…你会想念这些。你希望这几天可以过得不那么快…可能你现在还不明白,但你会想念这些。

7. Let go of desire.远离欲望

Most people live with “attached mind.” What this means is that they attach themselves to a desire, and when they don’t get it, their emotions plummet into negativity. Instead, try to practice “detached mind.” That means that when you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or neutral.

许多人都有“附加的心”,意思就是说他们都会有自己渴望得到的些东西,当他们不能得到那些时,他们的情绪就会走向消极。那么就试着去“给心减负”,意思就是说如果你想要得到什么,不管得到与否你都会很高兴。你的情感上依然会保持高兴或者平静。

8. Understand and be grateful for your fears.理解并感激你的恐惧

Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fears can also make you feel victorious. For example, when I was in college, I feared public speaking (one of the top 3 fears of all humans). So I find it humorous now that not only do I speak in front of a group every day by being a college professor, I also teach public speaking! Overcoming fears just takes practice. Fear is really just an illusion. It’s optional.

恐惧是位好老师。战胜恐惧也能让你觉得是种成功。例如,我在大学时期,我就不敢对着很多人说话(那是人类的三大恐惧之一)。现在看来就觉得很搞笑,因为我现在不仅是作为一名大学老师每天都站在台上对着一大群人讲话,我教授的还是公共演讲。战胜恐惧要敢于尝试。恐惧只是种幻觉,也是种选择。

9. Allow yourself to experience joy.允许自己享受快乐

Believe it or not, I know way too many people who don’t allow themselves to have fun. And they don’t even know how to be happy. Some people are actually addicted to their problems and the chaos in them so much that they wouldn’t even know who they are without them. So try to allow yourself to be happy! Even if it’s just for a small moment, it’s important to focus on joy, not your hardships.

不管你信还是不信,我都知道,很多人都不让自己快乐。同时他们也不知道怎样才会快乐。有的人沉迷于他们的问题和一片混乱中无法自拔以至于要是没有它们就都不知道自己到底是谁。所以尽量让自己快乐起来,即使快乐只能持续一小会,享受快乐很重要,而不是让自己觉得难受。

10. Don’t compare yourself to other people.不要拿自己去和别人比较

But if you do compare yourself, compare yourself with people who have it worse than you. Unemployed? Be grateful that you live in a country that gives unemployment compensation, because most people in the world live on less that $750 a year. So you don’t look like Angelina Jolie? Well, I bet there are more people who don’t than do. And you are probably way better looking than most people. Focus on that.

要是不和自己比较,那就和那些比你差的人比。失业了?那就感谢你还生活在一个有失业补贴的地方,因为大多数人的年收入都低于750美元。因此,你不必像Angelina Jolie吧?好吧,我打赌,有很多人都不是那样的。因此,可能最好的方式就是看看那些比你差的,关注这类的事。

11. You are not a victim.你不是个受害者

You need to get out of your own way. You are only a “victim” of your own thoughts, words and actions. No one “does” something to you. You are the creator of your own experience. Take personal responsibility and realize that you can get out of your hard times. You just need to start with changing your thoughts and actions. Abandon your victim mentality and become victorious. From victim to VICTOR!

你不必改变你自己的方式。你只是你自己的思想,言语,行动上的“受害者”。没有人会为了你“做”什么事。你是你自己生活中经历的创造者。担起自己的责任,认识到你自己能从困难中走出来。你需要做的只是在思想和行动上做些改变。摒弃你是个受害者的心态做一个胜利者。从一个受害者转变为一个胜利者。

12. Things can—and do—change.事情能做些改变

“And this too shall pass” is one of my favorite sayings. When we are stuck in a bad situation, we think that there is no way out. We think nothing will ever change. But guess what? It will! Nothing is permanent except death. So get out of the habit of thinking that things will always be this way. They won’t. But you do need to take some sort of action for things to change. It won’t magically happen all on its own.

“这些终将会过去”是我最喜欢的格言之一。当身处困境,我们都认为没法走出来了。我们都认为事情不会有转机了。但猜猜会怎样?会有转机的。只有死亡是永久的。因此摒弃事情会按惯有方式发展的思维方式,一般都不会是这样,但也需要你采取一些方式方法去使之改变。它也不会奇迹般的自我发生。

13. Anything is possible.没什么不可能

Miracles happen every day. Really—they do. I wish I had enough space to write about all the miraculous things that have happened to people I know—from healing stage 4 cancer naturally to having their soul mate appear out of nowhere. Trust me: it happens all the time. You just need to believe it does. Once you do, you have won the battle.

奇迹每天都在发生,真的是这样。我希望我有足够的空间去记录下我所知道的那些发生在人们身上的奇迹——从4期癌症的治愈到找到他们的灵魂伴侣。相信我:只要你相信奇迹总会发生。一旦你这样做了,你就已经赢得了这场战役。

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